The Wrong-Way Umbilical Cord

The Wrong-Way Umbilical Cord

Beautiful written article about the energetic bond between moms and daughters, and how to set yourself free. Highly recommended reading.

This should not happen!

3 Months ago I thought my life was finally going smooth.I was happy with a great man, my daughter was doing well at school, my home had never been as organised and clean, my garden looked green and cared for.. I was a happy girl!

Then, suddenly all started to crumble.
My man told me he did not "love me enough anymore" and that seemed to be the onset of an avalanche of bad news and emotional chaos.

My daughter suffered greatly because of my sadness (I wasn't even angry!) and I only tried to survive. I could not think, let alone feel what was happening.

Now, it's January, and I slowly but surely start to get out of the pit. I start to do things again, sometimes even laugh, make dinner, clean the house, cuddle the dog...

And I realise that I am grateful for the experience. Yes, I am angry from time to time, simply because life is unfair :) But most often I can see where it has brought me.

I suddenly realised that other people, and especially the ones we hold dearest, are only dancing to the music we play on a deep, deep level. Our subconscious programming, that behaviour and thoughts we are not aware of, makes the world around us at it is. And knowing and experiencing this, there is no blaming, no guilt, no regret. Just the realisation that this too will pass, and that it is a great moment to grow and learn.

In my relationship with my daughter, this has brought about major shifts. i explained it to her, and she being an ADD / Indigo child, understands it probably better than I do. neale Donald Welsh's book "The little soul and the sun" has helped us greatly to see the right perspective. People only are nasty to you because you need that nastiness to be able to experience that what you wanted to experience in this life. You cannot experience "being forgiving" when no one does something nasty to you!

This also helped her coping with the bullying at school. Sensitive children like her are often bullied, and she is no exception. She can not understand why children are so mean, and there is no way she would fight back. She's angry, yes, and hurt, but she could never hurt another child.

So, yes, in the end I am grateful for all what happened, and I am looking forward to the next lesson, hoping quietly it will be a bit less painful!

Charlotte

PS I have been using EFT to cope, it helped me greatly to stay sane and calm and be a good mother during this painful episode of my life. On my site I write about using EFT for symptoms of ADD and ADHD, but the possibilities are much wider than that. Check it out, you'll be happy you did.